How to make her climax
When I'm this close to orgasm—eyes squeezed shut, lips twisted in a Billy Idol sneer, cheeks glowing—the most descriptive word wouldn't be "passionate" or "erotic." It would be "determined." Because right then, at the edges of my fading consciousness, I'm worried that the phone will ring, my knees will lose their traction on the sheets, or my boyfriend will change position, and suddenly I'll be sliding away from that elusive peak instead of moving toward it. For the 75 percent of women who don't always reach orgasm during intercourse, this happens all the time.
THE DREAM MACHINE
"It's a simple fact that some women can climax only by using a vibrator," says Friedrichs. If your partner never hits her high note, no matter what you try, simply ask her if she's ever had a battery-assisted orgasm. If she says no, introduce her to a whole new world of wow by ordering something powerful, such as the Aqua Touch Vibe ($26 from goodvibes.com). And if she's really into the idea of adding some kink to your routine, check out this round-up of the best sex toys for men.
If she's over the age of 30, her answer will probably be yes, and she'll be more than happy to pull her Hitachi Magic Wand out of her bedside drawer. After asking what pressure and speed she prefers (many vibrators have several settings), all you have to do is hold the vibrator against her clitoris as you move from one position to another. Enjoy the magic show.
